‘What Price Grief’?

I try hard to avoid or react to the vast majority of what passes as the' news'. Current affairs that occur in the world, are not necessarily the same thing as the mooting of ill conceived policy wheezes which the British government pandering to social media seems to delight in delivering on a daily basis. However the latest irrelevance to catch my eye is this. Bereavement Leave I  recently came across a great quote from a notable general who said, Bans are laws for the stupid I'd actually add the caveat that a lot of legislation is completely unnecessary and irrelevant and one is in fact legislating for common sense, decency and regular morality which frankly in a decent society shouldn't really need to be legislated for. Though even I admit people need a push in certain directions now and again, and protection for the vulnerable is essential. So would this bereavement leave be only for bereaved parents? Or for all ...

‘SAD’

By Saturday, August 31, 2013 0 Permalink

The acronym SAD  is commonly known for Seasonal Affective Disorder but it could also stand for Situation Always Difficult. August is a very difficult month for me, but in reality no worse or different than any other time. Life in general is pretty tricky most of the time. So why do things appear to have got worse just recently? I say 'appear', because we must always remember, even in the darkest depths of despair that thoughts are never real. To paraphrase Seneca, we suffer more from imagination than from reality. Though I will be the first to admit that seems hard to believe sometimes. The summer officially ended in August apparently.  Leaves have started falling from the trees, there is a breeze in the air which means going out without a jacket at night is not a good idea. Suddenly us girls face that tricky transitional phase where stockings look premature but bare ...

‘We do not see things as they are. We see them as we are’

This Anaïs Nin quote is overused in the blogosphere, but is nevertheless one I favour. And for this post entirely appropriate. There are many topics I wish to discuss. France and President Hollande's unusual tax ideas. The real reason as it seems to me why the digital age advanced so quickly. Why the Kosovo - Serbia agreement is so precarious. A little musing on why Marcel Aymé back in the 1940s was so prescient on the economic mayhem we have now. Also probably a little something on why David Cameron has quite clearly lost the plot altogether regarding the EU. All these things can wait. Because what is P-for Prussia really in fact all about? What is the purpose? Coming out the other side of bereavement. I see dead people. No, don't worry, not like the little boy in 'The Sixth Sense'. I haven't completely lost my mind or discovered psychic abilities. I mean doppelgängers of people I've lost. Vivid , ...

‘Time to get personal’

By Friday, December 21, 2012 2 Permalink

Sharing personal secrets or memories is not something I generally tend to do but the last few weeks have forced me to reminisce about my lost loved ones more than usual. (Ten times a day maybe rather than the normal two to three then)! This has been caused by a number of factors. My mother's birthday came and went, the third one I have spent without her. It passed without much stress on my part. The first one in 2010 which came four months after she died was obviously painful but I went out for dinner with one of my few girlfriends to 'celebrate' as it had been a tradition until then to always take Mama out for a splendid lunch/tea/dinner to somewhere we had never tried. I missed that and still do. Even in foodie obsessed Britain,I am not sure anyone I know has the same obsession with restaurants as the ...