If I don a cloak…

By Saturday, September 29, 2012 0 Permalink

Will I look like the sexy Scottish widow? Probably not. As I mentioned before, I wore a cloak at school and it was more quaint dork than chic young lady. Still it is always easier acting a part when you have the right costume. I thought I was making progress in my grieving. I don't think I am. After another interminable weekend alone with just the pets for company, I was looking around the internet for thoughts on how widows and widowers date and how it is for those who date them. Looking at forums of miserable posts hasn't really helped me I must admit. I have been shocked at the seeming lack of compassion from others telling me to join dating sites and hurry up and meet someone. I know they just see a nice young woman who doesn't really deserve to be all alone and think that I should be with someone. Well guess what? I think ...

Keep Calm and Carry on Spending

By Thursday, September 13, 2012 0 Permalink

This could be the mantra of the government right now, but it seems also to be true of the British people. Keep spending. That is the cure both personally and nationally. Except it clearly isn’t. Last week the General Secretary of Unite, Len McCluskey said, The minimum wage should increase because if low-paid workers received an extra £40 a week they’d spend it, not put it into some fund in the Cayman Islands More on that here. Now in theory I'm all for raising the minimum wage. I do actually believe it is pitifully low in the UK and is not helping people meet the rising cost of living. But I do appreciate that businesses baring the brunt of this, in particular SMEs, will suffer as a result and this could cause difficulties and in turn raise costs for consumers. However what really vexes me about this comment is the way in which ...

World Suicide Prevention Day

By Monday, September 10, 2012 0 Permalink

Those who read this blog may assume sometimes I am a born cynic when it comes to politics. This is not the case at all. It is my first love, and for this reason any cynicism I may display is sad realisation at the futility of much that goes on. However, a handful of MPs restore my faith in the power of politics now and again, and I am glad to say today is one of those days. A new strategy reported today is aiming to look at the rise in suicides in the UK and what can be done to prevent and address this concern. Cutting suicides and helping those affected by the bereavement is a really brave move, and one which I applaud. No, this is not a sexy or fashionable cause, this is real life at it's most stark and tragic. It is about something we all strive to avoid too much of. Pain It ...

Avoidance is futile

By Saturday, September 8, 2012 0 Permalink

I have been getting by quite well of late.  Almost upbeat in many ways. Then this evening I was channel hopping on television and I saw that the Tom Ford directed ' A Single Man' was on. This film my boyfriend and I went to see when it was released in 2009 and at the time I found it moving and beautiful. I had not seen it again since. Colin Firth deserved more accolades for his portrayal in the film of a man left grief stricken by the sudden death of his long term partner. I consider it to be his best work, and Tom Ford really should do more directing as he is clearly a great talent. Both style and substance done well is a rare combination. Could I watch this? Why must Colin Firth resemble my boyfriend so much? Did I want to watch this? My finger hovered over the remote. As I left ...